We are just over two weeks post placement now, and Nick and I could not be more surprised and impressed at how things are going. We expected a possible honeymoon period, as some kids have post placement. We also were prepared for not having one, and having explosive behavior instead. We have been pleasantly surprised to have experienced neither so far. While emotions have been high, no doubt, Leo is fitting in like a typical sibling. He struggles to get along with the other kids at times, and other times plays incredibly well with the other kids. And it our other kids are in the same boat. They all have days they get along well, and days they argue over anything they can find to disagree about. It's just a typical day with a house full of different personalities and opinions! Leo is learning to be a 9 year old. This is all new for him. He has spent the last several years in a home that has not allowed/encouraged him to act his age. But he is a fast and eager learner. He has stepped up remarkably well when called out of his preschool-appropriate behavior and attitudes. It is refreshing and encouraging to see him so quick to grow and mature. Leo is still learning to live with the culture of our family, and we are still learning to parent him well. We are thankful beyond words for the work God is doing in all of us. Please continue to pray for all of us as we adjust to the new family dynamics. Parenting a child who has spent the last 9 years learning and developing a whole different way of life comes with unique challenges compared to parenting a child brought home as a baby or even a young child who hasn't been so rooted in a different family culture. We want to meet Leo where he is, pull him up to his potential in a healthy way, and love him in our parenting. This requires a great deal of discernment of behaviors, in order to respond in a way that is appropriate. We also want Leo to feel free to talk about his previous family, his emotions, and to be himself. In order to allow him to be himself and to feel his feelings, we have begun the process of taking him off of the medications he is on. Please lift us up when you think about it. We have not experienced any problems so far, and are thankful for that. God has been very kind to us in how he has allowed these major transitions to play out. Finally, please lift up the other four kids. I can not begin to express my pride in how Zach (my child most resistant to change) has responded to adding a brother to his room, his circle of close friends, and into every personal space he had before. All of the kids have done so well. The younger two are actually struggling the most, because they have always been a duo. It is hard for them to add someone else to their one on one play. But overall, all 5 kids have done amazing, and I am so thankful for and proud of each of them!
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